How work culture wants too much from us

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I often joke that I used to work for a cult. The truth is, I think I did work for a cult, a company cult.

My experiences got me thinking about work and why so many jobs want more than what’s required in the job description. Sometimes it seems they want our devotion, love, and personal time too.

For instance, I have friends who teach in schools. They talk about how their employers play on their desires to be good teachers but don’t really support them or allow work-life boundaries. So many teachers are burnt out.

I also have a…

How Headlines Continue to Show it Matters

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As mentioned on the Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence (BTSADV) website, “On average, a woman will leave an abusive relationship seven times before she leaves for good, according to The National Domestic Violence Hotline.”

Abuse is not limited to one gender. It touches almost everyone in some way. Over the years, I’ve learned about consent and how we talk about it in society, especially to kids and teens. In my experience, I don’t remember being taught. Sure many of us knew that scary older men weren’t supposed to touch us, but sometimes, that’s as far as the conversation went.

Why learning about manipulation matters

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When I was younger and hitting the dating scene hard, I had no clue about gaslighting. However, I had experiences where I would see something happening in a relationship, and my boyfriend (or a guy I was seeing) would tell me that I was crazy and it wasn’t happening. Yet, I would find out that I was right, leaving me to wonder why I second-guessed myself and why I was so quick to believe someone else.

Years later, I learned that gaslighting is a way of manipulating someone into second-guessing what they know to be true. This also happens in…

Why I took a survey to find out if family dynamics matter in dating, and what I learned

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“We may have our differences, but nothing’s more important than family.” — Disney’s Coco

I recently watched the Bachelor and the Bachelorette. I’ve never been into it, but I decided to try it to bond with a friend. Together we watched a few seasons: Ali Fedotowsky, Juan Pablo, Andi Dorfman, and the most recent one, Clare Crawley and Tayshia Adams.

You might be wondering why anyone would binge that many seasons of the Bachelor franchise, and all I can say is this time in covid has been strange indeed.

Of course, the shows were entertaining, but after watching so many…

How being an older student can set you up for success.

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How many of us are proud of how we did in school or proud of our majors?

It seems there are so many adults working outside the scope of their studies. Perhaps you know someone who has made big changes in their career towards the end of their twenties or even after. If not, I’m sure you know someone who has gone back to school or started learning new skills.

How often have you wished you could do something similar? Picture yourself in this time next year, with your newly learned skills and experience.

How much will you have grown?

How constantly dreaming of an ex might not be the soul link we think it is

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I have a confession to make: I dream about one of my exes all the time.

I’ve been dreaming about him for over ten years. No, he wasn’t my first boyfriend or sexual partner, and I’ve had other relationships after him, but none have made it into my subconscious the way this one has.

For years, I thought this was a soul link.

Some people think when we have sex, we connect part of our souls. I don’t want to diss this idea because maybe there is some truth. There is a lot we don’t understand about human connection and…

How boundaries start in childhood and end with us

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I get anxious all the time. I tend to avoid telling people how I feel and, therefore, get irritated and avoid others when they do something I don’t like. For the most part, speaking up for myself or even expressing dislike is hard; I’m a super polite people pleaser. Does this resonate with anyone?

Those of us with porous boundaries probably suffer from burnout, depressive episodes, and other issues like resentment and rocky relationships.

It turns out, boundaries are essential. I grew up in a dysfunctional childhood with an absent father, young mother, abusive stepfather, and then spent the rest…

Flexible courses that helped me build confidence and skill

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I want to be a writer.

No, I am a writer.

Wait, I don’t have a writing habit, so how can I be a writer?

These thoughts used to prey upon my ability to write. I knew I had things to say, but I didn’t think I was qualified. I subscribed to the notion that only those who are qualified should write.

But how do you get qualified if you don’t write?

One author I follow talks about how quantity produces quality. In essence, the practice develops the skills and leads to better writing.

So, how do you begin when you don’t have an English or Journalism degree? What if…

What to do when it’s not always bliss and balance

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Do you struggle with anxiety, overwhelming thoughts, lack of focus, and an impending sense of doom?

Raise your hand if someone has asked if you’ve tried meditation?

If you have, are you able to meditate consistently? Do you know anyone who does?

I’ve been meditating on and off for 10+ years. I recently took a Transcendental Meditation (TM) class, and because of that class, I’ve been practicing consistently. This practice has inspired me to share some thoughts.

Picture yourself meditating. What’s the most exciting aspect? Gaining knowledge or understanding? Do you picture a more balanced you?

Either way, the truth…

How feeling anxious while smoking can be a gift

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When I think about the essence of North America, I think about four things: Natives, marijuana, colonization, and innovation.

Natives used marijuana (MJ) as an aid to facilitate ceremonies, medicine, and meditation. After colonization and beyond, MJ has been the topic of controversy but has never quite died off.

Over time, it was stripped of its respect, exploited by greed, and demonized by law. Fortunately, in the states, views are changing.

Users smoke for a variety of reasons, whether it’s to relax or meditate. Some are trying to find insight or reach a higher consciousness. Others hope to avoid what’s…

Rebecca Eloisa

Writer who loves learning and sharing! Passionate about lifelong learning, society, and culture. Insta: @rarroo Twitter: @rarrooo

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