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Four Reasons Poor Communication Makes Anxious People More Anxious
Why hating confrontation causes more problems
I hate confrontation. One of the things I dread most is having an awkward discussion about something I have done, or someone has done to me. The anxiety and dread are overwhelming. I’m not the type to clap back in general, and I rarely address something right when it happens.
This is odd because the lack of communication actually causes more distress.
For instance, I recently became upset with someone close to me.
Rather than address the issues right then, ask clarifying questions, and express my wants, I decided to keep quiet. I didn’t want to rock the boat.
However, in doing so, my mind spiraled and caused problems in my relationship.
So why do it? Why do some of us fear speaking our minds? For me, I worry about the awkward and exhausting task of talking out the issue. But I am not alone, am I?
To those who are like me and are trying to understand the consequences of our avoidance and delayed responses, I offer my personal insights on how the postponed causes a chain reaction of problems.
